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Conquering Communication Problems in Romantic Relationships
When we are angry at our spouse, occasionally we put our foot in our mouths one too many times. We stumble around, attempting to find the best words to discuss a problem we're having in our relationship.
Discussing certain subjects like money, sex or child rearing can be difficult, especially if the relationship is already problematic.
Effective communication for couples is an art in itself. It is an important part of any successful relationship; yet oftentimes overlooked the most by couples.
Busy schedules and the demands of family, work and daily household responsibilities take a toll on a relationship, leaving little time for relaxation and just having fun together.
So what happens when we get burned out? Well, we usually take our anger out on the people we love the most.
Here are some ways to open the lines of effective communication.
· Laughter is the best medicine. Life is serious enough. When faced with a particular problem that is not earth shattering, try putting a little humor into the situation.
· Hold back the criticism. All of us have habits that get on each other's nerves. So, he doesn't put away the dishes right, or neatly fold the towels like you do. So she loses her store receipts and can't balance the check book accurately. Don't sweat the small stuff.
· Try not to go to bed angry. Make sure to settle your differences before the end of the evening. Starting a new day with forgiveness is the best way to strengthen a relationship and is good for our health too.
· Don't bring up past indiscretions. Whatever happened in your past cannot be changed. Sometimes it is best to keep certain experiences to ourselves. Telling your spouse something they don't know could only hurt them more.
· When communicating dissatisfaction with your partner, don't verbally attack them. Simply state your concerns like this: "I feel bad when you don't help me around the house." Try to avoid saying, "Why don't you ever help me around the house?" Or, "Sometimes it hurts me when you forget to call when you will be late." Try to avoid saying, "You never call and tell me anything. You are so irresponsible!"
Positive discussions in a love relationship are possible without the anger. So often, heated discussions escalate into hostile comments and lead to irreparable damage from hurt and resentment.
Why not start conquering communication difficulties in your relationship before they cause any long-lasting effects on your romantic relationship. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain.
Jane Karwoski is publisher of the e-book, "Romantic Secrets to Intimacy".
To download the first half of this book for free, visit http://www.secrets-to-intimacy.com
Creative Ways to Use Love Coupons
If you been surfing the net for anytime scouring the romance or dating sites, I'm sure you've discovered those cute little "love coupons" or "sexy coupons". Some of these sites enable you to download and print or email them to your sweetheart. So you've got your coupons, now what?
Love coupons can be a great way to spice up your relationship. Here is a list of some creative suggestions on using your love coupons:
• Stage a scavenger hunt, using the coupon as prize when it is found.
• Mail them by snail mail.
• Print out all the coupons and staple them together to form a small booklet. The recipient can pick, choose and redeem the coupons that they like the best first.
• Paste and copy or attach to an email to that special someone.
• Hide them in easy to find, but unexpected places:
1. purse
2. wallet
3. briefcase
4. lunchbox/cooler
5. personal calendar
6. car/truck visor
7. jacket/shirt pocket
8. the TV screen
9. lingerie drawer
10. underneath their morning coffee
11. attach one to the refrigerator
12. attach one to their schedule, calendar or PDA
13. computer monitor or keyboard
14. bathroom mirror
15. attach one to a grocery/shopping list
16. replace their bookmark with a coupon
17. auto glove box
18. tackle box
19. inside their favorite section in the daily newspaper
20. hide one in their favorite magazine
21. hide one in the TV Guide/Schedule
22. attach one to the TV/VCR remote
23. attach to bed pillow
24. There are hundreds of other places. Just pick one that you know your friend uses on a daily basis.
• Place all the coupons in a basket, blindfold your partner, mix them up and let them choose one.
• Print out all the coupons and divide them evenly between the two of you. Exchange and trade them with one another.
• Give a coupon to your partner when they have had a stressful day.
• Give coupons for special occasions: birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's Day or just to say you care.
• Place them in greeting cards for those special occasions.
• If you want to get out of the "dog house" or just want to say "I'm Sorry". Give your partner a coupon.
• Dating someone new, give them a coupon. They will be surprised at the romantic gesture.
Most of all be creative, let your imagination run wild, and have fun!
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